When we lose a loved one who was mentally and emotionally troubled throughout their life we are often saddened on top of our grief by the remembrance of their difficult life. It sometimes overshadows our memories of their good days , their laughter and smiles. We feel sorry and full of regret that their lives weren’t fuller, happier, settled; even though it was through no fault of our own. It is a natural part of the grieving process but to some it becomes a burden. A burden that must be released.
Through their passing our loved one has returned to God. They experience no more pain whether it be physical, mental or emotional. They rest. They are at peace, content and full of love. They wait for their new bodies, for their minds to be expanded. The life we long for them to have had is the same life they long for us to enjoy until we ourselves join them.
They have shed their sorrow and depression. Therefore, we must not let ourselves become trapped in the negative memories of their existence here. We must find comfort in their current existence. Their current happy and contented peace is what we must now embrace and let flood into our minds. We can remember their smile, laughter and positive interactions. But there is no longer need to dwell on their previous troubles. We no longer need to search for answers, a change, a cure. It has all passed. It’s gone and it has no power over them from now through eternity. They have been freed from their troubles and anxieties and therefore so have we and we need to let go of those memories.
We must strive to live our best lives not only for ourselves, God and our loved ones still here but also for those who have passed. They have run their course and it has ended. We must remember through all their turmoil they did and do still love us. And they now wait peacefully to be reunited with us.
“Man who is born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble” Job 14:1
“Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from now on. Says the Spirit, they may rest from their labors and their works do follow them” Revelation 14:13
“Therefore, we are always confident, knowing that, while we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord. For we walk by faith, not by sight. We are confident, I say, willing rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 5:6-8
“For God so loved the world, that He gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16